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5 Reasons Couples Should Sleep in Separate Beds

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5 Reasons Couples Should Sleep in Separate Beds

If he snores loudly, you may just want to use that spare bedroom. You need your beauty sleep!

Last night, Boo jabbed me on the back with his pointy elbow. He was dead asleep and had crept over to my side of the bed, stretching his arms and eventually stabbing me with his funny bone. While trying to move away I remembered a study that claimed a good percentage of American couples sleep in separate beds. According to researchers from Canada’s Ryerson University, 30-40 percent of couples were sleeping apart in 2013.

PLUS: Why It’s Hard to Sleep Without Boo

I think it’s a terrible idea but I don’t try not to judge or be unfair, so let’s play Devil’s Advocate. Why would couples need to sleep in separate beds? Here are some reasons that I came up with:

Better sleep. 

As a lover of sleepy time, I understand the need to get 8 hours of rest a night. In order to sleep better, some people need to sprawl out onto the bed and have space. I say you can solve that with a King-sized bed!

Opposite wake-up schedules. 

If he leaves to go to work at 2am and you’re snoozing by 10pm, this can disrupt your sleep, especially if you are a light sleeper. A spare bedroom where he can sleep in from time to time can help. At least until you get used to his wake-up schedule, or if he only works at dawn from time to time. And tell him to be more quiet!

Sleeping habits. 

You need to fall asleep with the TV glare on. He needs the room pitch black. This can lead couples to sleep in separate bedrooms. I say, compromise. It’s a learned habit. You can break it with time. Or he can sleep with a pillow over his head.

That snore.

According to the Mayo Clinic, sharing a bed with a snorer can be hazardous to your health. That’s because it’s tough to get sleep when your man is snoring like a garbage truck. So, yes, I get it! You’ve rolled him on his side, given him sleeping pills, and even propped up his pillows. For a good nights rest, you may just have to sleep without him.

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Yes, kids change things, especially our sleeping patterns. If your kids have a tendency to jump into your bed in the middle of the night, there may not be enough room for Daddy. He may just go sleep in your son or daughters room for the night ’cause not even the King-sized bed is helping.

Personally, I will stick with sleeping in the same bed as Boo. He can lay half of his body on top of me or kick me in the middle of the night. He can hog the blankets and leave me shivering in my corner. For me, sharing a bed with the man that I love builds intimacy and keeps us connected – even if his elbow is in my mouth.

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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