A bona fide woman challenges the man she is dating, makes him better, and sets a standard for herself that makes it impossible for him not to respect and admire her. This leads to a more deeply satisfying and fulfilling relationship.
But, there’s more. Here are 10 qualities that men believe make a real woman:
You support his goals and ambitions and have your own. If a guy is very career-oriented, dating a girl is difficult because she complains that he’s working all the time and not making time for her. A woman, on the other hand, finds his work ethic attractive. She likes that he has priorities and vocational aspirations that he’s actively pursuing outside of their relationship.
A woman also has goals and ambitions of her own. She pushes a man to level up because she has a vision for her life outside of trying to find the right man and relationship.
You are independent. A woman has her own circle of friends and her own life. She believes in having an independent life while sharing worlds. She understands how important and healthy it is her and her man to maintain their individuality within the relationship. She isn’t constantly trying to assimilate and accommodate herself to a man’s schedule. She’s not afraid to say “no” or reject plans if something important comes up.
You are emotionally and financially stable. A woman doesn’t depend on a relationship to be happy and is not afraid to be alone. She doesn’t rely on the affection, attention, and love of a man to feel emotionally secure and whole. In fact, she is emotionally stable and mature through self-produced mental and emotional fortitude.
A woman can pay for her own things as well. If a man buys her dinner one night, she will make a point to return the favor, even if it’s just paying for a drink or a cup of coffee. She has her own career and isn’t looking for a man with money to turn her life into a Cinderella story. And while she loves to feel like a lady and have a man take care of her, if he insists, she never expects it.
You have high expectations and don’t settle for less than you deserve. Your level of expectations in relationships is directly proportional to your level of self-esteem. A woman with a high self-esteem won’t put up with a guy’s shit. She is not going to settle for less than she feels she deserves in a relationship because she’s afraid to lose the guy.
You accept your man as is and don’t try to change him. This is a big one for guys: a real woman is more accepting of his flaws. She doesn’t project idealizations about the kind of person he should be, but rather knows that everyone has flaws and negative qualities. She wants her guy to be happy, does things for him, and is not going to treat a guy as some pet project that she can try to mold and shape into her ideal man.
You are not affected by superficial dating factors. Specifically, factors such as money, power, and social status. A real woman is not infatuated by the idea of celebrity and does not actively seek attention from men. She dates men for their character. She doesn’t require that a man is accomplished and a by-product of success in order to date him. She knows that success takes time and work, therefore is able to love a man that is actively striving to make his mark on the world.
You are sexually liberated. A true woman owns her sexual pleasure and knows what she likes in the bedroom. She knows her body and is totally comfortable walking around naked in front of her man. She’s secure enough in her sexuality to tell her guy what she likes, and even directs him there. Pleasuring a man and enjoying it, or giving into her wild inhibitions, is not degrading to her. Rather, it’s empowering, allowing her to revel in her complete femininity.
You don’t play games. A woman has grown out of the bullshit. If she is attracted to a guy and wants to sleep with him, she will. She doesn’t worry about how she’s perceived or about her “reputation.” And there are no games. No need to walk on eggshells or deciphering every move.
You know how to communicate. Emotional savvy and mature, a woman is aware of her emotions, understands them, and knows how to skillfully communicate them without assumptions or passive-aggressiveness. And she doesn’t expect a man to know how she feels.
You can handle his honesty. When a guy dates a girl he often doesn’t feel she’s emotionally mature enough to handle honesty, so he sugar coats and withholds information to avoid confrontation. But a woman can deal and process tougher emotions. A woman will respect a man’s honesty. She would rather be in a relationship with ‘brutal truth’ than let hard conversations and emotions bubble beneath the surface. For this reason, disagreeing and arguing becomes a healthy, relationship-building way of communicating and getting on the same page.
In the end, a real woman inspires a man, exudes confidence and expects nothing but the best. Whether it ends in happily ever after or not, the man that dates you – a bona fide woman – is better for it.