A first date is always intimidating; even more so if it’s with a man you’ve never met. This is the case when online dating. We can only hope that the posted photos are true indicators of their handsomeness. That they only took a picture from a distance because they wanted us to see the Eiffel Tower in the background (how romantic!). That makes a first date with someone you met online a little easier.
Still, a foxy lady with long legs and a scrumptious man with a chiseled jaw does not a great first date make. You may have spoken on the phone but will there be chemistry? Will there be awkward silences? And how long should you wait till agreeing to go on a first date?
Here are some suggestions to make your first date less treacherous:
A conversation before agreeing to go on a first date can break the ice when seeing each other for the first time. It can also help you decide whether he is first date material. So, decide on a time to chat. Instead of giving out your personal line, register for a Google Voice Phone Number. This is a tool Google offers to all individuals. It is highly recommended for businesses, and in the case of our love lives, for women who are weary of potential stalkers.
Day and Time
Weekend nights are for couples so suggest meeting after work or on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon. This way there is sunlight and less of a chance that you will have to spend too much time together if indeed the date goes awry. Call me a pessimist, but what you see isn’t always meets the eye when online dating. If things continue along and you are enjoying yourself, then a date in the early afternoon gives you the option to go onto another spot.
A Coffee Date
Meeting for coffee is a great way to keep it safe on a first date. Coffee is quick, so if your date bores you, you can end it after the last sip. Coffee is hot, so if your date gets fresh, down his pants it can go! Coffee shops are also full of people and a great way to keep a date platonic. No need for intimate lighting on a first date! Lastly, a coffee shop gives you the opportunity to talk and get to know each other. That way you can decide if there will be a second date.
Suggested coffee shops in NYC:
· Serendipity: 225 East 50th Street, NY, NY 10022
· Make My Cake: 121 St Nicholas Avenue NY, NY 10026
How long it takes to take the plunge and go out on a first date with someone you met online is solely up to you. It is about your comfort level and how sure you feel to meet someone you have never met in person. Take these suggestions and go from there. And don’t forget your steaming cup of coffee.