It takes time to realize a relationship is over. It takes more time to buck up the courage to break things off indefinitely. We need even more time after a breakup to let go emotionally.
There are many reasons why a relationship ends. However, no matter the reason why our heart breaks, it takes us all about the same amount of time to crawl out of that dark, dingy emotional place. According to the Journal of Positive Psychology, we need 11 weeks (or three months) to get over a relationship. They say it takes about this long to realize what we’ve learned from the relationship, and how we’ll benefit from being single or with someone else. And it doesn’t matter whether you were the dumped or dumpee. The 11-week recovery period is pretty much standard.
So when your girlfriends get frustrated with you for being in a heartbreak funk for six weeks and counting, let them know you have about five more weeks of wallowing to go. Wear your comfiest sweats, devour that ice cream, and feel it all. If you don’t give yourself the allotted 11 weeks, you might not come out of it fully healed. Take all the time you need to grieve; it’s pretty much doctor prescribed.