I wanted to find out who I was as a woman. I knew for sure I wasn’t a lesbian, but how did I know I was totally straight if I had never experimented with a woman? Most of my friends had at least kissed a girl. I had also never had a threesome as my best friend often shared the golden rule: only appear as the guest star.
There were so many things I had yet to experience. So I decided to put up a profile on an adult dating site for men and women seeking sexual exploits. I posted naked photos of my body and a graphic description of what I was looking for. I went to great lengths to hide my face and tattoos, but I was so young and dumb that I never thought about the scar I have on my right breast where a mole had been removed a few years prior.
I was also naïve enough to give my physical location and choose a screen name that I use for almost everything. This includes dating profiles, which are searchable by all, including future and ex boyfriends.
Months later and the profile proved to be fruitless. I had long since forgotten about it and never deleted it when a recent ex-boyfriend demanded to know why I was on this adult dating site. He, of course, recognized my body. I told him I had honestly forgotten all about it. I immediately deleted the profile.
Days later and my photo is still on the Internet. The adult website sold my profile to all of their affiliates. It is now on porn sites.
People are paying to see my naked photos and there’s nothing I can do about it.
I am both outraged and ashamed this has happened to me. I trusted this website to keep my information confidential. I agreed to all of the terms and conditions assuming they were trustworthy. Now, I have to live with this mistake for the rest of my life. What if these photos end up in the wrong hands? Could they be mailed to family members or coworkers? Will I lose everything?
I’m scared to think about it and hope that those reading can learn from my mistake. Regardless of how reputable a website or app may be, you are also at risk. Whatever you post on the Internet will be there forever. So think before you post, or suffer these terrible consequences.