We all want to find that special love, that kind of love that erases all the pain and suffering from previous failed relationships and makes us whole again. That’s why many of us resolve to find “the one” in the new year. And, though it’s beautiful to meet someone who makes you feel complete, that feeling of wholeness shouldn’t come from being with someone else. We don’t realize it when we’re single but we’ve had that unique love all along. It comes from within. Yet, the new year’s resolution that many overlook is the best resolution of all – self love.
When you find love within yourself, you start holding yourself accountable, just like you do your partner when in a relationship. You want your partner to meet your relationship needs. Well, the same concept goes here. Hold yourself to a higher standard! When you don’t follow through for yourself, be disappointed in yourself. Really evaluate who you are, what you’re doing, and where you’re headed, just like you would any relationship.
Embrace self-romance. To have a romantic moment, you don’t always need a partner. Enjoy me time. Pour yourself a glass of wine, fill up the tub with bubbles, make yourself chocolate-covered strawberries, put on some Sade: these are just some ideas to show yourself some self-care. You can even go on a date – by yourself. Don’t go crazy and talk to yourself! Instead, treat yourself to a movie or dinner, and have the confidence that you can do it alone.
Stop neglecting yourself. Nowadays people are always in a rush. We are on schedule, have a meeting, must email and text or make a call, and we forget to just breathe and enjoy our surroundings. In any relationship, you want your partner to give you undivided time and attention. Stop neglecting yourself and give yourself just that!
This year promise to love for yourself and everything that you do. Be selfish with your time, your affection and attention. Truly love yourself more than you ever have before. Break ties with toxic people in your life, make positive career choices, take chances, and don’t worry about what other people think. What other people think or say doesn’t matter in the end. What matters is how you react and choose to live your life.
Eventually you will realize that loving yourself fully is what leads to that truly special someone, that love you’ve longed for, because you met your own needs and didn’t settle. So what are you waiting for? Make this year all about loving YOU.