We’ve all been there. You’re casually dating two guys – complete opposites – and you’re forced to choose one of them. In one corner, you have Mr. Good Guy.
GG is everything you could ask for in a man: he is sweet, caring, attentive, charming, genuine and always makes you smile. There’s no drama when you are with him, and you feel like you are living a fairytale.
In the other corner you have The Bad Boy.
BB is equally attractive as GG, but he’s extra charming and often does things his way. He doesn’t necessarily follow rules, especially when it comes to dating. And when it comes to dating you, let’s just say BB knows how to keep the spark alive. BB also doesn’t treat you as well as GG. Plus, there’s an abundance of drama. And though it’s exciting, you are often left wondering if you can handle him without getting your heart broken in the end.
Both guys have something to offer, but which do you choose? Mr. Good Guy or The Bad Boy? What kind of guy do young women prefer these days?
Ruby, 24, from Brooklyn, doesn’t believe it’s that cut and dry. “With so many online dating apps and sites, and just how the demographic of datable men varies, it’s hard to say I’m only gonna date a certain type of guy,” she said.
Some women, however, are clearly Team Good Guy.
“I’ve always been super attracted to bad boys but I realized they weren’t any good for me,” Marcia, 28 of the Bronx admitted, “[but] I broke the cycle and found a good guy and married him.” Elle, 23 of Manhattan, is also 100 percent #TeamGoodGuy, “I love good guys!” she exclaimed. “Never ever had a thing for bad boys – I like getting exactly what I want and bad boys are generally a big disappointment in that arena.”
But, don’t fret, Bad Boys. There are a millennial women who still find you irresistible. Alex, 25 of Staten Island, wants to be treated with respect, but believes that Good Guys are boring. “I wouldn’t go for it,” she said of having a relationship with a goody goody. Marly, 29, from Brooklyn is firmly on The Bad Boy’s side. “Not saying my significant other is a bad guy,” she said of her current relationship, “but most people look at him and assume that he is and he’s not the easiest person to get to know and he doesn’t smile much. But he’s kind and sweet where it counts – with Marly and her family. “He is the sweetest and most caring person,” she added of her Bad Boy, “[and] I feel incredibly secure and safe when I’m with him.” That’s definitely a lesson to not judge a book by its cover.
While some millennials easily picked a side, others felt like it was less about a stereotypical title and more about a guy’s character. Alexa, 25, of Queens believes the ideal man is a mixture of the two. Ultimately, what should matter is that you “find a man who is consistent and who keeps you happy. No matter what the situation is you should know that they have your back.” And the numbers back her up. In a recent online poll of #TeamGoodGuy or #TeamBadBoy, 99 voters weighed in and the results were far from equal. A whopping 85 percent said they’d data Mr. Good Guy while only 15 percent chose The Bad Boy.
In the end though, what matters is what will make you happy in the long run. As Whitney, 22 of Manhattan, summed up, only you can make the choice of what’s more appealing to you down the line. “Follow your true feelings,” she added, and “[in the words of] Johnny Depp, ‘If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.’”
Now it’s your turn to weigh in. Are you #TeamGoodGuy or #TeamBadBoy?