There are some qualities, traits, and behaviors that become apparent in the very early stages of dating. Often, they stack on top of each other to form a particular type of woman – and not in a good way.
So I’ve decided to share some of my non-negotiables as many men may think the same way. Here are 6 things that turn me off in a woman (or in a particular woman).
Instagram Is A Selfie Collage
Let’s face it, most of us will inspect a romantic prospect’s social media accounts. Also, since so much of dating starts on our phones, our social media accounts double as dating profiles. So, if I browse through a girl’s Instagram and it’s nothing but selfies and “duck face,” I’m less interested. To me, this means two things: A) she’s insecure – the closer someone holds the camera to their face, the more insecure they are, as they want more control over how the picture looks, B) she’s a narcissist. An abundance of selfies usually come from people who are a disastrous concoction of insecure narcissists.
Lack Of Social Consideration
If I’m talking to her and her eyes are constantly darting around the room, all I want to do is turn around and walk out the door. If she blabbers on about herself without asking me questions or reciprocating, or checks her phone too often, I think one of two things: 1) she’s either not interested and is using me as an audience to rehearse an excerpt from her memoir that she’s hoping to sell one day, or, 2) she might be interested in me, but not as interested in me as she is in herself. It’s an awareness and consideration thing. No man wants to get involved with someone who isn’t socially conscious and considerate.
Entitled Because of Her Appearance
I refer to these women as “look gliders.” They get by on their appearance. They feel they deserve certain treatment and are owed certain entitlements because God was in a good mood the day he made them. They have been attractive their whole life and have never learned what it’s like to win people over with their personality. They also come across as arrogant, pretentious, and cold.
But, the most attractive thing is an attractive woman who doesn’t rest her laurels on her looks or isn’t aware of how attractive she is (at least it doesn’t come across that way). This kind of attractive woman doesn’t feel she’s owed anything and fights for every inch of likeability with her warm personality.
Affected By Superficial Dating Factors
She name-drops. She talks about recent lavish trips. She talks about parties she was at with important people. She’s probably even quoted one of the Kardashians. She’s the type of woman who freaks out when athletes and celebrities are around and blindly jumps on all their dicks simply because they’re on TV and rolling in the green. This woman is opportunistic. She upgrades men like they’re iPhones. She dates men because of what they have, not because of who they are.
No Sense Of Humor
A sense of humor is a huge proponent in creating a positive energy and aura. It will never work with someone who doesn’t understand your humor because you will spend your entire relationship trying to explain what your jokes mean. A woman who loves to laugh and laughs at herself – and is real, genuine, and authentic – is one of most important good energy indicators early on. If she’s constrained, closed off, and preoccupied with reputation, she’s not in touch with her quirks, silly side, and what makes her human.
A Negative Attitude
If she’s immediately complaining about the venue or things on the menu, or is talking about things and people in a negative way, or is uptight about everything, her and I are going nowhere together fast. Keep all of these points in mind when dating, ladies. If not, you just may turn off a quality guy.