When Boo and I kissed for the first time I felt sparks, chemistry, that zaa zaa zoo. Often a kiss tells us how we feel about the person at the other end of our pucker. And my heart and loins were into him. Double the emphasis on my loins (ahum, vagina). If the first kiss would’ve been terrible, however, there might not have been a third date. That’s because a kiss reveals whether there is sexual chemistry or not. Sure, nervousness and expectations comes into play. It’s only natural to freak out. And that’s when lips forget how to move!
Another thing: everyone likes to be kissed in a certain way. The guy before might have liked it when you bit his lips (hard); this one maybe not so much. Luckily, men decided to kiss – and tell. Here’s what a few fine gentlemen had to say when I asked what kissing techniques make them hot. Pucker up, ladies!
Slow and methodical
The key to a perfect kiss is seduction. Men want women to be sexy, sensual and passionate. So, when you kiss him, be “slow and methodical,” said Nik, a real estate broker from NYC. Take your time. “Start off with small kisses,” Nik advised. That way you control the speed and, when you’re ready, you pin him down, open your mouth and give him all you’ve got.
A little bit of nibble
He’ll want you to take charge from time to time. You can do this by climbing on top of him and nibbling on his lips while kissing. “A woman can bite a little,” Jose from Miami suggested. “Just don’t bite too hard…” he warned. Yes, biting too hard can seem like you’re overeager. Plus, it hurts!
Not too much tongue
When it comes to using your tongue, less is more. You want to seduce him with licks and flicks not swallow him whole. At least that’s what Erik from the Bronx recommended. He speaks from experience. “I don’t want to choke on a woman’s tongue,” he said. “You laugh, but it happened to me once!” It turns out that a gal desired Erik so much she got carried away with the tongue action. “I felt like I was at a doctor’s office getting my tonsils checked.” And everyone hates the dentist.
Long lasting and continuous
Kissing is part of foreplay. It also makes men feel desired and adored. That’s why it’s ideal to kiss your man continuously and with true emotion behind the kiss. “I like the intimate, slow kiss…deep and long lasting,” said Ed from Seattle. That’s the kind of kiss that sends a shiver down his spine. And it would do the same to any man. Don’t just kiss him when you want to turn him on. Don’t take off his pants and forget his mouth. Kiss him for as long as you can because you love him and need him.
Literally. Dave from NYC is all about a woman who sucks his top lip. “It shows the girl is into it,” he said. And that’s all a man really desires when kissed.
So, today turn off the television and put away your phone. Greet your man at the door and plant a kiss on his lips just the way he likes it.