Oh, romance! How I love thee and the movies that paint courtship in such a sweet light! But wait. That guy I once dated never once chased me down the airport to profess his love. No man has held a boombox over his head and stood below my window. And, as much as I once tried (and I tried really hard), I never once got the bad boy to change because he realized that I was better than the other gals who tried to change him.
Who is to blame for all these lies? Not Ryan Gosling. Not Matthew McConaughey or Zac Efron. The culprit of all these sappy, romantic fantasies is none other than Nichoas Sparks. Damn you, novelist!
I am here to provide you with the truth. Here are 3 romantic movie myths debunked.
If it’s meant to be, it will be.
So much so that you don’t have to give a guy your number. Just jot it down in a random book and one day he will find it (if it’s meant to be) and find you (again, only if it’s meant to be). This is what happens in Serendipity! And women believe it to be true.
Players will change.
No, really. That unattached man who’s been playing with your feelings, like Mr. Big did with Carrie in “Sex and the City,” will change his stripes because you are that special. That off/on-again relationship is going to become a commitment. And he will become a docile, loyal puppy dog. Just wait!
He’ll leave her for you.
That’s what movies like The Wedding Planner and shows like “Being Mary Jane” and “Friends” prove. It doesn’t matter if he’s about to marry another woman. Or even buy a cat (Ross totally left Julie with their new cat friend). He will drop everything and every one for you. And he won’t cheat on you even though he cheated on his ex-lady to be with you.
Do you see what Nicholas Sparks does? His lies feed into our sense of hope and romanticism. Ladies, take it from me. The best fairy tales and romantic gestures are those that are genuine, less complicated, and given willingly.