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When He Leaves You For An Unattractive Woman

She’s not Shrek, but she’s not as hot as you are. Yet he left you for her.

There aren’t many women who are willing to talk about a man leaving them for an unattractive woman. It’s a pride thing. She may not look like Shrek, but she’s just the cute girl next door or a heavier girl. No matter, you personally find her unattractive. She’s a 4 and you’re at the very least an 8.

It sucks, I know, because I was left for a downgrade. I was dating a dude and suddenly he ghosted. He texted less and less, and eventually no longer existed, leaving me in the dark. What’s a girl to do? I broke the golden rule and checked out his Facebook.

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“Holy WTF!!!” I screamed when I saw what I saw. He was dating Plain Jane.

Please tell me: why did I lose all of this weight, spend five hours in a crowded Dominican salon to get a weave sown in, followed by eyelash extensions and a manicure, so he can leave me for her?  Was I living in an alternate Universe?

No, ladies. This happens to most of us hot bitches. Here are some reasons why men choose the average girl over your smoking hot ass.

Your high maintenance.

I’m a glam girl. I like to look a certain way. I put a lot of effort into my appearance. I spend a good deal of time and money shopping and coordinating my outfits. When I go out I want to look hot regardless of the time of day. I don’t go out in a hat with a pony tail and sweats; it’s not who I am. There is nothing wrong with women who do, but some men find women who rather rock stilettos high maintenance.

He’s insecure.

Not every guy wants to date a hot girl. Those who feel this way are usually insecure. An insecure man will always worry that another man will try to steal his woman. So they choose the average girl because she’s safe.

MORE: 3 Signs You’re Dating an Insecure Man

He’s just not that into you.

It’s not always about looks. The connection might just be deeper with the so-so gal than it is with you. That simple.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Not everyone likes the same look. This guy might actually be more attracted to her than he is to you. Shocker!

You’ve probably been that girl too.

The guy that I am madly in love with dated a model from Los Angeles. I look at her Twitter sometimes and literally feel like Quasimodo. And I wonder why he chose me. Their relationship has been over for a decade, but she still intimidates me.

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The bottom line here is this: someone will always be prettier or uglier than you. So if your man leaves you for a beer (you’re fine wine, baby) let him go. Just wait for the man who enjoys sipping on Merlot. It’s who you deserve because that’s just what you are.

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Tabitha Bauman

Living in the suburbs of Philadelphia, Tabitha is a self-proclaimed free spirit who travels extensively throughout the USA. She has a bold writing style and offers her insight on love, dating and relationships on and She writers from her own experience as an independent woman exposed to the world of modern-day dating. Her goal is to enable women to value themselves above all else and find happiness in this great big world.


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