We all have that guy who sweeps us off our feet from the moment we meet him. For me, he’s the one with that southern charm that you rarely find in Southern California. And he has this distinct laugh that when I hear it I just can’t help but smile.
Soon, you develop a friendship that’s different from any that you’ve had before. You can’t explain why, but you’re drawn in by everything he enjoys, everything he does, and everything he says. For the first time in a long time, you’ve found someone who makes you forget the ex who shattered your heart.
You find little things in your day that remind you of him. You start looking for any excuse to text him. You catch yourself constantly checking your phone hoping his name will pop up. You set a custom ring tone so you know when he texts you. You find yourself looking for any reason to bring him up in conversation. His name, his voice, and thoughts of him consume your daydreams. This is more than just a crush. This is love.
You’ve fallen fast, so fast that you can’t explain it. And you can’t help but notice that he enjoys your company as well. He clearly likes you. So, one day you take a chance. You put your heart on the line. You show your heart and share your feelings. You ask him to take a chance on you….only to be denied.
Now what? Every country song reminds you of the time you two went off-roading, listening to croons while looking over city lights. How do you stop yourself from thinking of him at the most inopportune times?
It’s not easy. But you can move on. Instead of thinking of him every morning, look in the mirror and compliment yourself. When you think of texting him, text your best girlfriend instead. Or tweet your favorite celebrity. Put your phone on silent. Stick it in your purse pocket so you don’t check it so often. Drink tea or a glass of wine and start a new Netflix series. Read a classic novel.
And remember this: getting over a guy you fell so quickly for isn’t going to be easy, but it’s not the end of the world. Keep your chin up. Keep smiling. Don’t let any guy smear your eyeliner. There will be other men. There will more heartbreak. There will be other loves. One day one will stick and fall in love with you just as hard.
Born and raised in the suburbs of Los Angeles, Felisa is a 22-year-old SoCal girl at heart who loves to write almost as much as she loves to talk. Within a year, she went from being in a serious five-year relationship to the single scene, which launched a passion for writing about about love, romance, and the dating scene.
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