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How Many Sex Partners? Tackling The Numbers Talk

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How Many Sex Partners? Tackling The Numbers Talk

What to do when she brings up the numbers talk about how many sex partners you have had.

Men, how do you respond if and when your woman asks about your number of past sexual partners? Well let me tell you, when I was a virgin, I proudly told the men that I dated that my number of sexual partners was — zero. I almost boasted. Enlarged ego, I knew most women in their 20s had experienced some penis action — through the front or back entrance. Not I. So, like a man that has bedded hundreds of women and brags about it to his boys, I discussed my virginity with anyone who listened. Due to sharing my number, the men that I dated felt the need to share theirs. If not, I’d ask. At the time, I thought the number of women they slept with said something about them; just like the zero men that I slept with said something about me.

Do all women feel like I did in my 20s about sharing their number of partners? Does the number of sexual partners really matter in relationships? Here’s how to tackle the numbers game if and when a woman asks.

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Be Honest…Sort Of
When a woman asks for your number she hopes you won’t say the actual number. “I’ve wanted to know before,” said Yahaira, a 39-year-old Dominicana from Manhattan, “but I really didn’t want to know, you know?” So why ask at all? Because her number was and still remains fairly low. Yahaira has been with her significant other for almost 20 years. And she asked him the deal albeit with trepidation. “I thought the conversation was important ‘cause I wanted to know who I was dealing with.” In other words, she may not have been interested in dating him if he was a man hoer. So, be honest…sort of. Round down!

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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