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Heartbroken? Your Swagger Isn’t About Him, So Get It Back

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Heartbroken? Your Swagger Isn’t About Him, So Get It Back

Whether your heartbroken, single or in a bad relationship, you can get your swagger back. Here’s how.

Since sexy never left me, I never had to bring it back. My swagger, however, has been misplaced from time to time. Whether it was spurred by a bad hair day, a bad workday, or a bad boy day, there have been times where I’ve had to reckon with how to get my swagger back. Over the years, I’ve tried a number of things until I found my ultimate antidote.

In high school, with no money of my own to spend, my remedy was exercise. I remember getting a gym membership for Christmas and starting my workout regimen soon after the New Year. I loved the post-run rush, but even more I loved how my muscles looked as I admired them in the mirror.

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As exercise became a regular part of my life, I needed a new substitute. So in college, I took to shopping with the little bit of money I made from my part time job. A new tube top here. A new short skirt there. Little tokens of my affection from me to me! As I walked in my clunky wedges (hey, it was the late 90’s!) to parties, they gave me a strut in my step.

When I became a grown-up girl with a grown-up girl job (and thus grown up girl funds), I moved on to massages. This indulgence made me feel like a million dollars without it costing a million dollars. When I felt rested and relaxed, I knew I could take on the world.

In the past 3 years, when all of the above became standard how-I-take-care-of-me components of my life, I needed something else to fill in the gap. What was a girl to do? For me, it became as simple as slipping on my favorite Freya set under anything from a T-shirt and sweatpants to a party dress. Yes, homies, I’m talking about lingerie (or as Jamie Foxx’s character Wanda from “In Living Color” would say with her lips poked out, “ling-er-ee.”) Not the peek-a-boo wedding night numbers, but beautifully crafted and exquisitely designed bras and panties that flatter all of your assets. To wear quality pieces that not only provide you support but also look amazing on your body gives you a certain spring in your step and stature to your posture. And even if you aren’t wearing anything special on the outside, your little secret on the inside is just fabulous! No one will know why you ooze the confidence you do.

I’ve spent a pretty penny on this indulgence, but why not? I’m worth the splurge. My swagger is an investment and so is yours!

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So keep this in mind, ladies. The key to reclaiming your swagger is about finding what works for you. If it makes you feel indulgent, empowered, confident, sexy, special, and swaggerlicious, then do it. Remember, your swagger is not about him. If he notices or appreciates, that’s the cherry on top of the delectable hot fudge sundae that is your fabulous life.

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Krista P.

Krista is a NYC writer on all things love and lingerie. An observer of life, she loves sharing her two cents on dating and relationships as well as girl power.


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