In relationships, there comes a time when couples become “comfortable.” A woman stops washing her hair in the Dominican beauty salon and does her rollers at home instead. So what if her man sees her with a doobie? He’s seen her made up and now he can see her made down.
Women aren’t the only ones that let go when the level of comfort escalates. A man may have shaved his balls in the first 6 months of the relationship but you’ll be flossing with his pelitos soon enough. This, ladies and gentleman, is the reality of relationships, but it’s not as bad as it seems. Actually, there is a sweet freedom that comes with being “comfortable.”
Think about it, ladies. We no longer need to tighten our ass cheeks in our sleep to hold in our farts. We can actually pee with the door open! We don’t have to wear foundation or our contacts lenses (bifocals will prevail!). And that huge bag of chips you’ve been meaning to eat? You’re going to eat the entire bag and lick your fingers while laying next to your amorsito.
That’s one of the great things about feeling comfortable with a partner. We drop all pretenses. There’s a security there, a feeling of safety that allows the players in the relationship to stop playing games. But how do we know when the comfort has led to complacency? Here are some clear indicators:
- Your sex life is as a distant memory, and that’s a terrible thing! Ask anyone and they will tell you that sex is an important part of a relationship. If your boyfriend and/or husband lacks the desire to sex you up, there is an emotional disconnect.
- You’ve let yourself go…completely. You don’t even need to wear a doobie to bed because you no longer fix your hair! And your nails? You chewed them off and spit them out…on the floor…by his feet! This is a frightening sign that you just don’t give a fuck.
- Peeing in front of each other has now become doing Number 2 in front of each other. And you’re face to face, wiping your ass and asking him to look at your dookie as it floats in the toilet bowl. Enough said!
So what do we do? If comfort has transformed to lethargy then spice things up! Create a lovers coupon book for your honey. Spend the weekend in a hotel. Pretend your strangers and pick each other up at a bar. Try anything to make time for your relationship and bring the freshness back. Now, if the comfort in your relationship hasn’t hindered your sexy, then enjoy it!
There is nothing more beautiful than being yourself with your love.