I’ve always wondered why some marriages work and others fail. It almost seems inevitable, and it’s not just based on divorce statistics. I watch married couples and can feel which will succumb to the D word. But I don’t tell them that I think that.
Other than using my psychic powers, there is a tie between DNA and marital bliss. A study conducted in UC Berkeley discovered that a gene that regulates serotonin can predict how much our emotions affect our relationships. There seems to be a link between relationship satisfaction and a gene known as alleles. We all inherit a copy of this gene from each parent. How many we inherit, however, is what can affect our love outcome.
When things go wrong in relationships, folks who have two short 5-HTTLPR alleles are unhappier. They don’t cope as well with the ups and downs and negative emotions, such as anger, contempt and bitterness. What happens when everything is pleasant and their relationship is at its peak? These somber campers become blissfully happy. On the contrary, those with one or two long alleles are far less affected by the emotional turmoil of their marriages and overall relationships. They just shrug it off and keep it moving!
What does this mean for you and me? Just that there’s a reason why certain things impact us differently. There is always more than meets the eye, however. Just like DNA can weigh on the success of a marriage and our level of happiness, so does healing from old wounds, such as breakups and childhood issues. It all goes hand in hand. Not one thing affects our love outcome. So, continue to be the best you. Don’t stop learning about yourself and what fulfills you in relationships. The D word doesn’t have to be uttered by your lips nor mine.