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Dealbreakers: Short, Bald Fat…And That’s Why You’re Single

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Dealbreakers: Short, Bald Fat…And That’s Why You’re Single

A dating checklist can be effective if used wisely. Single women, here’s relationship advice on how to meet your match while creating the right dealbreakers.

by Christy Goldstein

Single women often make lists of what they want and don’t want in a man and a relationship. But do those actually work, or are they turning away possible love matches because of these extensive lists?

I have seen a lot of women pass up good men because they are too short, have the wrong hair color, or are overweight. They reject every man that comes their way because they do not match their list to a tee.

If this sounds familiar, this may be why you are still single. But you don’t have to be! Screw the list and take a chance on someone who may be two inches shorter than what you want. After all, it can’t hurt to give it a try.

[ALSO READ: First Date 911! 5 Ways to Show Him You’re Not Interested]

Using Dealbreaker Lists Effectively
Lists can work to an extent. Just don’t use them as an “all or nothing” type deal. Many of the things on your checklists are unattainable. To think that one person will have fifty to a hundred things on your list is insane! What would you do if the men started making a checklist? How would you feel if the guy you wanted rejected you because you didn’t fit his criteria? Wouldn’t you feel low about yourself?

Focusing on Personality Traits
You should desire someone who possesses great qualities, such as kindness, generosity, and courteousness. But to add height, weight, job title or hair color on your list of dealbreakers won’t work out 99% of the time.

Know Your Serious Nonnegotiable’s
There will always be dealbreakers and that is fine. Dating checklists is how we realize what we desire from a partner. And some should be nonnegotiable. For example, you may want to cut your losses if a guy doesn’t have a college degree. Education may be very important to you. Or maybe you don’t want to be a stepmother, so you  do not date men who have children.

In a nutshell, to include the superficial reasons on why you won’t date someone will render you single for a long time.

Tell us. What’s on your dating checklist? Share your thoughts!

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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