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What Happens When You Date Someone Fresh Out of a Relationship

What Happens When You Date Someone Fresh Out of a Relationship

We were basically two fools trying to figure it out. A recipe for heartache.

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Fast forward six months into our “situationship.” During a drunken conversation, I slipped and said, “I’m falling for you even though I know I shouldn’t be.” He didn’t respond. I passed out from the alcohol. The next morning I regretted it instantly.

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He was uneasy, withdrawing by the second. I knew I deserved better, I knew I wasn’t needy or clingy. I just wanted to build a foundation and be with a man who included me in all aspects of his life. I wanted the simple things that matter most. And I needed to tell him all of this. So I called him and asked,“So, what’s the deal? I know something is wrong and you’ve been acting dodgy ever since I said what I said to you.”

“Yes, I have been distant. I am not where you want me to be and I felt like it was a shit or get off the pot moment,” he replied.

I explained to him that I wasn’t in love with him, my feelings were just growing stronger. I could sense his frustration, so in anger and to protect myself I blurted, “You know what, I think we shouldn’t speak anymore. I think you are a great guy, I hope you find what you want, and wish you the best.” Click. I hung up and burst into tears of fury and sadness. Mad at myself for letting someone get close to me and angry that I felt played. I was trying to see something that wasn’t there. I wanted to believe in love and find the relationship that would repair all the rest and all the heartbreak. I was settling.

Now, I am no longer angry. On the contrary, I am happy to feel again after guarding my heart for so long. Maybe that’s the reason Kevin was put in my path – to remind me to open up. I am thankful that he came into my life and shook it up. Yes, I am still hurt, but I know now what I want and deserve. I know my needs and my deal breakers. I know that I should never be afraid to feel and speak up, and that there is no right or wrong way to have your happily ever after.

Whether it’s a week, a month or a year, dating after a major break-up takes patience. You can’t rush into anything. You can’t try to make something fit when it doesn’t, and you shouldn’t stick around just because you are afraid. Take time to be selfish and discover who you are. That’s what I am doing now and I can honestly say, I’m happy.

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Former TV producer and current Entertainment journalist for local and national publications covering nightlife, music, and fashion, Victoria has a passion for the written word. A small town girl livin’ it up in Miami running her own Marketing & PR company - ITM Media - she is heavily involved in the media industry. From event management to artist relations, she does it all and loves it. She has an old-fashioned meets modern world-view on all things love, dating, relationships, and single motherhood, and loves being an independent Latina. When she’s not writing about sex and dating for LoveSujeiry, scoping out new artists for Just Breezies, or covering Miami’s nightlife for her own lifestyle site, ViqueInTheMix, she’s being a “Momager” to her overly active son. She believes that with love and kindness anything is possible. Read Vique’s posts HERE.

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