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For a Healthier Relationship Have Sex When Not in the Mood

Not feeling up to sex? A study says you better do it anyway, or your relationship will suffer.

When I was less busy, I was way more into sex. Living the fab life of a 20-something with fewer responsibilities has that affect on a gal. Now, with my SiriusXM radio show,, Latina and my duties as a mujer (cooking doesn’t happen on its own!) I am exhausted.

Still, I make time for quality time in the boudoir. I wear sexy lingerie and pinch Boo’s butt even when I rather relax and watch TV. And that’s a good thing. A new study published in The Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin discovered that when we have sex with our partner, even if we’re not in the mood, our relationship benefits tremendously.

PLUS: 6 Things That Will Help You Have More Sex

I’m not suggesting you spread ’em whenever he wants some. Men and women, however, should push themselves to have sex with their partner. Sex is important in a relationship and, unfortunately, something that can cease over time. When a relationship is new, you can’t keep your hands off of your man. Then life happens. We get busy, routines take over, and we fall into an unhealthy pattern where sex is no longer a priority. Researchers say that couples experience “sexual interdependence dilemmas,” which is when our sex drives are no longer in sync with our partner. You want to have sex but your partner doesn’t at that time. Your libidos are pretty much off kilter. This is why sexless marriages exist! You don’t want that, do you? I know I do not.

So, when you feel a headache coming on, take an Advil and climb on top of your man. Be spontaneous and give him a BJ without him asking for one. Dress up in sexy lingerie just for him, even if you much rather wear your comfy pajama bottoms. Be selfless. Push yourself to get it on even when you’re not in the mood, so your relationship doesn’t fizzle.

MORE: Spice It Up! 5 Places to Have Sex Outside the Bedroom

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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