When I was less busy, I was way more into sex. Living the fab life of a 20-something with fewer responsibilities has that affect on a gal. Now, with my SiriusXM radio show, LoveSujeiry.com, Latina and my duties as a mujer (cooking doesn’t happen on its own!) I am exhausted.
Still, I make time for quality time in the boudoir. I wear sexy lingerie and pinch Boo’s butt even when I rather relax and watch TV. And that’s a good thing. A new study published in The Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin discovered that when we have sex with our partner, even if we’re not in the mood, our relationship benefits tremendously.
I’m not suggesting you spread ’em whenever he wants some. Men and women, however, should push themselves to have sex with their partner. Sex is important in a relationship and, unfortunately, something that can cease over time. When a relationship is new, you can’t keep your hands off of your man. Then life happens. We get busy, routines take over, and we fall into an unhealthy pattern where sex is no longer a priority. Researchers say that couples experience “sexual interdependence dilemmas,” which is when our sex drives are no longer in sync with our partner. You want to have sex but your partner doesn’t at that time. Your libidos are pretty much off kilter. This is why sexless marriages exist! You don’t want that, do you? I know I do not.
So, when you feel a headache coming on, take an Advil and climb on top of your man. Be spontaneous and give him a BJ without him asking for one. Dress up in sexy lingerie just for him, even if you much rather wear your comfy pajama bottoms. Be selfless. Push yourself to get it on even when you’re not in the mood, so your relationship doesn’t fizzle.