Being a senior in college is one of the best feelings of a young adults life. The opportunities that the world has to offer are literally at your fingertips. You’ve managed to conquer everything that college has to offer, including pulling all-nighters of studying, overbearing professors, and waking up for class after a long night of partying. However, the one thing most of my classmates haven’t successfully mastered is how to properly communicate what they what from the opposite sex.
It seems as though college-aged men and women are on different pages when it comes to dating. Many college girls hold on to the same guy from freshman year, hoping he’ll retire his player ways after graduating so they can build a future together. On the other hand, many college guys seem allergic to the idea of settling down; they do not plan to take any woman seriously any time soon. Don’t get me wrong. There are some couples who genuinely find love in undergrad, but it’s rare.
After graduation, it all shifts. It’s time to make serious decisions about what you want in love and life. And here’s how to do just that.
Leave the Games
The games that you played as an undergraduate student are no longer acceptable when dating in the real world. It’s not like you’ll be able to have a separate boo in each dorm to cater to your different needs. If you plan to continue to casually date multiple people at once, be more private with your business. Also, learn how to indulge in quality dates. The new people you encounter will expect you to know the difference between Chiptole and an upscale restaurant.
Change Your Mindset
Change your mindset as an upperclassmen. Know that you won’t be young forever. Graduating from college means that you should have reached a new level of maturity. Just how certain companies dread hiring the new college graduate, some potential suitors will not entertain the young grad if he or she isn’t mature. Get out there and show your new love interests that you can hold an intelligent conversation. Prove that you should be taken seriously and treated with respect.
Realize You Are Now a Freshman of Life
College graduates become freshman all over again. They become the freshman of real life. Many men and women you will meet after graduating are more seasoned and will desire stability. Therefore, take all of the experiences from the past four years – the good and bad -and remember to apply what you’ve learned when you find someone you are ready to settle down with.
Tonya Nelson is an ambitious hopeless romantic. As a graduating senior at Howard University, Tonya uses her experiences to share her ideas about love and romance from a collegiate perspective. Her plans are to become a multimedia mogul. Until then, she’s working on her college degree while indulging in casual dating along the way.