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The Hookup: To Call or Not to Call?

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The Hookup: To Call or Not to Call?

The morning after my BU dating bust I decided to make a call. Well, it wasn’t so much deciding as it was pulling my hair out, vacillating whether to pick up the phone or not. I don’t know why it’s so difficult for us chicas to take that bold step, or why that step is so bold to begin with. We’re not conducing brain surgery or saving Mother Earth from aliens! It’s as simple as finding his name, pressing send and opening our mouths to speak. Besides, men call the majority of the time. Fabulous mujeres can take the same initiative, right?

So I did it. I proved by fabulosity and called Mr. G – the man whom I’ve been pining for since last summer – just to say “hello”. My fingers found his name. I pressed ‘Send’ and waited for the ring. On the first ring, my mind whispered, “Pick up, pick up, pick up.” By the third ring it yelled, “Crap! Why won’t he pick up?!” Seconds later, the machine answered instead of Mr. G. Should I leave a message or not? Aaaah! Another torturous decision! The machine beeped. No time to think! I blurted a quick “Hello” and ended with a “Call me!” before hanging up.

Now I had to wait. And that, ladies, is the most difficult part of this calling game. But I promise you this. No matter how many days pass or how many pelitos I loose, I will not initiate contact with Mr. G. As much as I believe women should take charge in love and sex, I also believe in courtship. Making that call may not save a life or planet, but I am a fabulous mujer. And I deserve a phone call, dammit!

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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