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Bridesmaid 101: Picking The Perfect Bridesmaid Dress

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Bridesmaid 101: Picking The Perfect Bridesmaid Dress

Bridesmaids. The word sends shivers down spines, unless you’re referring to the hilarious movie. But I’m not. I speak of puffy dresses, periwinkle blue and dollars spent on yellow shoes and taffeta ball gowns we will never wear again.

“But you can cut it and make it shorter,” says the bride. No, I really can’t, I seethe silently.

“Oh my God, olive looks so good on your skin tone!” Actually, it looks like baby poop, I resist to shout.

“That bracelet goes so well with the ensemble. You wear silver, right?!” Never a day in my life! I cry.

Still, as women we allow friends to put us in caca colored dresses that make our asses look wide, our boobs look flat, our arms look fatter, our gut slouchy and our chichos scream for mercy. We do this because we love our friends and sisters and cousins and god sisters. It’s an honor to be asked, and so, as wedding vows go, we obey. Most, if not all, will say,”I do,” no matter how broke we are or how off the “Will you be my bridesmaid?” proposal (but we haven’t spoken in over a decade!). And that’s because the bridesmaids in the shitty, sweaty, tulle stuffed dresses love you!

So, brides, how about you make this experience more pleasant for us? Don’t know where to start? I am here to help! Here are some suggestions on treating your bridesmaids like loved ones rather than unwanted step-children:

  • Different Styles for Different Folks: Many brides choose different styles of bridesmaid dresses to accommodate their wedding party.  It truly is a great way to make each bridesmaid look their best! Not all dresses work on all body types. I wouldn’t be caught dead in a dress with thick straps (my small boobs would hate me forever). With a different style per dress, you can celebrate the  shades and sizes of all your bridesmaids.
  • Different Colors for Different Folks: Take a page from Carrie Bradshaw in Sex and the City: The Movie and have your bridesmaids rock different color dresses. It’s modern, edgy and will allow your bridesmaids a personal color choice that represents their personality. I’d be like Sammantha in red!
  • Try on Dresses with an Objective ‘Maid: It is difficult to get everyone together to decide on bridesmaid dresses. As women, we are all so busy, juggling love, career, friendships, family and our homes. So choose your most trusted bridesmaid. The one who will be objective. The one who would not put a bridesmaid in a moomoo because she loathes her or loves wearing moomoo’s so everyone will have to also! The more understanding the bridesmaid, the more she will want to make the entire wedding party happy.
  • If All Else Fails, Go Online: There are great websites, like, that have an array of bridesmaids dresses. Choose the styles you like and send links via email to your bridesmaids. You can also create a Yahoo group so everyone can share their opinion and come to a consensus. This online process makes it a lot easier to eliminate dress options.

I hope these tips helped brides and bridesmaids alike. If not, you may be stuck with a pitiful and uncomfortable bridesmaid, which will show all over the wedding pictures due to her tulle related itch!

It be like right out of a comedy, and no bride wants that.

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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