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When You Bump Into an Ex Cause He Lives in Your ‘Hood

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When You Bump Into an Ex Cause He Lives in Your ‘Hood

That’s the backside of the man I used to run up to and hug, the hair I ran my fingers through.

It’s a beautiful Saturday morning and I’m walking to a cafe in my neighborhood to meet up with my friend, Kate, for our morning coffee. The sun is shining. I’m wearing my new sunglasses. I feel invisible. I’m feeling myself. Then I turn the corner and it all comes crashing down.

I recognize him. That is the backside of the man I used to run up to and hug, the hair I used to run my fingers through. It’s my ex-boyfriend, Steve. I’ve dreaded this moment since our breakup.

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Steve and I live in the same neighborhood. And so I knew I would run into him on the street, at a local bar or while waiting for the train. In this case, there he was steps away from my favorite coffee shop. Fidgeting in place, I stopped dead in my tracks. I pulled at my clothes unsure of what to do. I need to get away, I thought. So I walked in his opposite direction. Wait, I can’t let this guy control my actions, I thought. Besides, I have to go that way. Feeling silly, I turned around and walked toward him. Maybe he wouldn’t even see me.

He turns around. My world slows down.

“Oh, hey Christina!” he says when I walk past him. I blush. Dammit.

“Hey, Steve! How have you been?” I ask. We’re side by side. His hair blowing in the wind, his teeth so straight. What a perfect smile. I still have feelings for him.

“I’m doing well, you know, just working. What about you?” he continues. Oh not much, I just still think about you everyday, I fight the urge to say.

“Uh, I’m good, going to meet Kate now,” I said. Awkward silence.

Tall and built, he looks down at me. And we just awkwardly stare and smile at each other.

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“Yeah, okay, well I’ll see you around,” I say, breaking the silence. We hug. He smells so good, the same. I used to see him naked. Ok, time to go. I walk away and don’t look back. Because bumping into an ex your still pining for is literally the worst.

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Christina Cardona is a hopeless romantic and a total Queens girl. Over the years she has realized that mostly all experience is good experience, and there is a lesson in everything. She plans to share her dating faux pas and help women of all ages understand that sometimes life just happens - and that's ok! When she is not persuading others that knows girls can do anything boys can do, you can find her in a yoga class or walking neighborhood dogs.


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