A few years ago, I had an epiphany: I attract men who are emotionally unavailable. These men are also charming, ambitious, have killer smiles and penetrating eyes, and did I mention they are either hung up on an ex-girlfriend or in an actual relationship?
Mr. G was the perfect example of the latter. We were co-workers and hit it off immediately, flirting in between class periods in the hallway. I knew he had a girlfriend and didn’t take it further, until I bumped into him at a club. I was no longer his co-worker and therefore it was no longer necessary to be professional. And so we kissed passionately; the rest was (bad) history.
After our emotional affair, I realized I shouldn’t have to wait for someone to handle their affairs, past or present, in order to be with me. That’s why I backed off from Taken Cutie, a man I recently met at a networking brunch.
Taken Cutie arrived fashionably late. We locked eyes, he smiled and I felt myself melting. As the brunch went on, however, he dropped the bomb that he was engaged. The attention he’d been receiving from the women at the table immediately ceased, and that included my gaga goo goo eyes.
The brunch also came to an end, and we all lingered outside of Calle Ollo Restaurant enjoying the buzz of the sangria and bright summer day. Wanting to look cute for my walk home, I pulled out my lipstick and began to reapply the light burgundy hue to my thin lips sans mirror.
“You have some lipstick above your upper lip,” Taken Cutie noticed. I wiped my upper lip with my fingertip. “Let me do it,” he replied as he came toward me with raised hand.
“No, that’s ok! I got it!” I blurted while backing away. He continued to reach toward me with raised fingers. Instantly, I hurried to the restaurant mirror to avoid what felt like an intimate moment. I wiped the lipstick smudge in question and returned to the group.
“What was the big deal?” he asked, curious.
“You have a fiancé and shouldn’t touch anyone else’s lips,” I responded confidently. He laughed it off but I knew it was the right thing to do. I had an epiphany, and there was no turning back.