I’ve been thinking a lot about energy, mostly because I’m in a really great place. I don’t want my good vibes to be rattled. I wake up and I am happy. When things go wrong, or not exactly as I planned, I manage to shake it off and just…keep…swimming.
I’m different now. Before I would wallow and bitch and moan. I am a new me – a new Sujeiry – and I love it.
This makes me very protective of my life, my relationships and my time. I don’t want to be an earpiece for those who refuse to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Sure, I love to help others, especially women. It’s what I do professionally. But I have noticed a pattern in my personal relationships. I attract two type of people: 1) the self-sufficient and motivating, and 2) the negative and needy. These are two extremes, I know. Perhaps it’s because I have been both of these people at one point or another. I have sunk into a deep hole of sorrow. I have also helped myself and others swim up and reach the surface, sun rays finally shining on already sun-kissed skin.
So I find myself pushing away those who remind me of the old me. I am not perfect and I don’t expect others to be. We all have moments of weakness. We all need a listening ear, a helping hand, and to feel pain, sadness, and, yes, even negativity. But I don’t want to be around someone who sits and stirs and lives in a state of negativity, someone who is comfortable there and who never ever sees the silver lining, even if you hand it to them on a silver platter. The negative effects of negative people are just too debilitating, and they include:
Negative people are exhausting to be around. You feel like you’re fighting a losing battle. They put a negative spin to anything that is positive, whether it is about your life or theirs. Whenever I spend time with someone who is always negative, I feel emotionally drained.
Negative people are envious. You tell them that something amazing is happening in your life, and they will just grin and bear it. They aren’t unhappy for you but they aren’t happy for you either. They can’t be. They are too busy sifting through thoughts, comparing their life to yours.
A One-sided Relationship
A negative person will not be there for you as you are for them. Again, this is only if they have always been this way. People go through moments of despair, and that is okay. It’s life. We are human. However, if your relationship has always been about another’s woes and issues, it is completely one-sided. That is not fair or healthy. This is when we need to cut the chord for the sake of our sanity, and to protect the good vibes and positive energy we’ve worked so hard to create.