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Don’t Worry: I Got the Bill, Babe

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Don’t Worry: I Got the Bill, Babe

He hands you the bill on a date. And Vique says you should pay.

Being Latina, I was raised with an old-fashioned mentality that a man should take care of her woman, protect her and pay for everything. That just doesn’t work for me. We’re in 2015, and it’s time that all cultures evolve past traditional gender roles and expectations. Yes, it’s nice to have a man pay the bill when on a date, but should it be a deal-breaker? No!

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I’m a 30-ish (no-one really has to know) single mom with a career, and I work hard for what I have: what’s wrong with me paying on a date? I’m one of the lucky few who knew exactly what she wanted professionally and was offered a job right after graduating college. I’ve made more money than most men I’ve dated, and that never bothered me. I have even paid the bill on more than one occasion. It’s empowering. To be honest, I find it really attractive when a man doesn’t feel weird when I pay.  It means he lost that macho mentality that is often taught since birth.

And times have changed! Women are making more money; we have our own businesses; and we run corporations. We even have two female candidates running for POTUS. We’re running shit. The idea that we need men to pay our way diminishes all this progress.

Don’t get me wrong: when it comes to first dates, if the man extended the invitation, he should pay. It’s a nice gesture, and it feels great to have someone wine and dine you. But that shouldn’t be the only thing that matters.

The same goes for when I am in a relationship. I’m all about being an equal partner. I got you, you got me, so when it comes to fronting the bill it’s okay to dish out some dinero. Think about it: if I make more money than my boyfriend, how is it fair that he always pays? Does that mean I shouldn’t date him because he makes less? What happened to love and being with someone who respects you and treats you like a Queen?

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In the end, men and women can and should contribute equally. Pay for dinner some time. Treat your significant other if you never do. Ask a guy out on a date and pay his way. I promise he will find you even hotter.

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Former TV producer and current Entertainment journalist for local and national publications covering nightlife, music, and fashion, Victoria has a passion for the written word. A small town girl livin’ it up in Miami running her own Marketing & PR company - ITM Media - she is heavily involved in the media industry. From event management to artist relations, she does it all and loves it. She has an old-fashioned meets modern world-view on all things love, dating, relationships, and single motherhood, and loves being an independent Latina. When she’s not writing about sex and dating for LoveSujeiry, scoping out new artists for Just Breezies, or covering Miami’s nightlife for her own lifestyle site, ViqueInTheMix, she’s being a “Momager” to her overly active son. She believes that with love and kindness anything is possible. Read Vique’s posts HERE.


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