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Get the Guy in a Relationship to Stop Hitting on You

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Get the Guy in a Relationship to Stop Hitting on You

He keeps texting at 2am – and he has a girl! How to nip it in the bud.

Not all men are created equal. When it comes to respect many men in relationships disrespect their significant other by hitting on other women. It’s easy to blame the woman for his mistakes.

She’s not having enough sex with him. She’s cold and calculating. She emasculates him.

Well, men need to be put in check. As women, we should stick together and set these guys straight when they come around. Yes, guys are persistent, but it’s your responsibility as a respectable woman to nip it in the bud – even if he just texts you from time to time. Just because something hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it isn’t cheating!

PLUS: Is It Cheating If There Is No Sex?

How do you get the guy in a relationship to stop hitting on you? Be the better woman because karma is real. Here are some suggestions:

Confront him.

If you know or eventually learn that he has a girlfriend, confront him. Tell him you don’t want to disrespect his significant other and to keep it strictly PC. Keep him in the Friend Zone so that he doesn’t even think about crossing the line.

Ignore his texts.

If he texts you late nights, or sends you cutesy notes, ignore his texts. Eventually, he will get the point and leave you alone. But, what if you’re friends with him? You don’t want to be rude. Instead, when he texts you a sexual innuendo, change the subject. Completely disregard what he says and talk about something that is far from flirtatious.

Tell him how you feel.

It’s time to be direct. Tell him that you don’t feel comfortable with his flirtation. Tell him it’s inappropriate because he has a girlfriend. Don’t be afraid to say that he needs to respect his girlfriend. Most men think that women will go along with this behavior but, if you are a respectable woman, you need to let him know you command respect – not only for his girlfriend, but also for yourself.

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Go old school – tattle tale.

This should be your last resort. No one wants to be the bearer of bad news, but if your man was trying to creep, you might want someone to clue you in. Let’s say the guy doesn’t stop flirting with you. That’s when you give him one last warning: if he doesn’t quit it, you will tell his girlfriend. This could backfire because many women want to believe their man will change, and so his girlfriend might not believe you – or worse, she might blame you. At the end of the day, you did your good deed and your conscious is clear.

If after all this he doesn’t quit, one – he’s a stalker – and two – block his number. You don’t need that drama in your life, and there are plenty of other men who are worth your time.

Guys can be dogs, but if more women stuck together we could set them straight.

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Former TV producer and current Entertainment journalist for local and national publications covering nightlife, music, and fashion, Victoria has a passion for the written word. A small town girl livin’ it up in Miami running her own Marketing & PR company - ITM Media - she is heavily involved in the media industry. From event management to artist relations, she does it all and loves it. She has an old-fashioned meets modern world-view on all things love, dating, relationships, and single motherhood, and loves being an independent Latina. When she’s not writing about sex and dating for LoveSujeiry, scoping out new artists for Just Breezies, or covering Miami’s nightlife for her own lifestyle site, ViqueInTheMix, she’s being a “Momager” to her overly active son. She believes that with love and kindness anything is possible. Read Vique’s posts HERE.

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