We’ve all been hit on by a guy we aren’t attracted to. Awkward.
Some men react in a positive way and are even willing to stay in the Friend Zone. Others lash out, screaming, “well, you’re ugly anyway!” as they walk away with a bruised ego. And some guys just don’t understand. They don’t get the hint that you’re just not into them.
Why don’t you want to go out with him? He’s hot shit! You must have been kidding when you said, “no thanks” to his proposed date.
That’s how Sam felt when he asked me out. Instead of letting it go like a man, he kept inviting me to outings and events. He thought he was so smooth. All he did was make me feel uncomfortable. It really wasn’t fair.
There are a certain things you can say and do to keep guys like this at bay. Hopefully they work and he finally leaves you alone!
Stay out of sight.
It was easier to ignore Sam than to continue the dance. I didn’t want to deal with yet another awkward conversation. And so I avoided areas where he frequented and never ran into him again. Overtime, maybe the guy that keeps bugging you will forget you exist and drive another girl crazy instead. Out of sight, out of mind, right?
Reject all he offers you.
Ever receive a “want a ride home” text on a cold winter day from the guy who won’t take a hint? I know, it’s so tempting. But don’t do it. He’ll feel like you owe him something, and that may just be a dinner date. Do. Not. Give. In.
Don’t answer his texts.
Nothing says “I’m not interested!” than unanswered texts and phone calls. If you ignore every single one of his texts, he’ll get the hint. If he doesn’t and your conversation looks like this:
Well, then there is something wrong with him. Try to avoid him at all costs just to be safe.
Tell him you have a boyfriend.
If he doesn’t care that you have a man (he doesn’t know he’s imaginary, okay!) he clearly has boundary issues. It says a lot about his character and he doesn’t deserve a single minute of your time!
Sometimes your best bet is to be blunt and tell him to leave you be. If you feel uncomfortable, you have every right to tell him that one — you already politely declined and do not wish to go out with him, and two — that you would like his antics to stop. If that doesn’t work, there’s something seriously wrong with this guy.
So ladies, be direct (even if you have to talk to him again) strong and confident, and he will certainly get the hint. Eventually.