Dating in this century is like a painful game of Dodgeball. You run away to avoid getting hit, make calculated moves to find your mark, and try for the perfect shot. It’s like a gauntlet out there, and with so many of us addicted to social media most turn to online dating and dating apps to meet our match. But, does it work? Can you really find love on dating apps like Tinder which is infamous for hookups? It depends. Online dating can be hit or miss – just like dodge ball.
After chatting with some friends, I learned the most popular dating app is in fact Tinder. Tinder’s process is simple: it matches you with someone based on mutual attraction. The “swipes” are all anonymous, meaning unless both “swiped right” no one will ever know. If you find each other mutually attractive, Tinder notifies you with “It’s a Match.”
Sounds really superficial right? As I said, many use Tinder for hook-ups, but the dating app might surprise you and lead to that fairytale, happily ever after love story you’ve been searching for. In my circle of friends, I know two couples that not only met through Tinder, but are also now engaged after being together less than a year. Shocking, I know! Why did Tinder work for them? They gave me some dating advice and tips on how you can find love on Tinder:
“It’s all about what you put into it.”
Yes, there are random hook ups, but if you’re patient and don’t over “like” to find a match you can find someone special. It’s not just about the attraction; you have to click on the profile, really get to know the person, and make sure you like what you see (pictures can be deceiving).
If you have a checklist, make sure you’re dating someone that meets your criteria. It’s about quality over quantity.
It’s a dating app on social media; you’re outsourcing your love life to technology. There’s no matchmaker vetting out the crazies and people are not always who they say they are. The best way to know if the person behind the profile is who he or she claims to be is through an actual conversation over an actual phone. After the initial “hello” through the apps messaging service, go old school. Pick up the phone and call. Talking to a person gives you a sense of who they truly are before taking it to the next level. So talk to them before going out on an actual date.
“He SUPER-LIKED me, and I SUPER-LIKED him.”
Tinder’s latest feature is the “Super-Like,” which allows you to differentiate between those you kinda like and those you really, really like. You’re only allowed to “super-like” one person a day (you do so with an upwards swipe), which helps weed out those who aren’t interested in a long-term relationship.
“After talking all night on the phone, we couldn’t wait to meet in person. The rest is history.”
Sometimes you just know. You truly either click or you don’t. So be selfish. If you’re truly looking for love, don’t be afraid to walk away from someone if the chemistry isn’t there. This doesn’t make you a jerk, it makes you honest. Besides, you’re better off not wasting each other’s time. Just know what you’re looking for, especially when dating on Tinder. It’s that simple.