It’s exciting to come home from a date and relive the night in your imagination. Until halfway through you ask yourself: did I just get home from a date or were we just “hanging out”?
Men of all ages send these kind of mixed signals. So, here are some tips to help you determine if you were on a date, or just spending time with a buddy.
He asks you out. If he asks you out, it’s a date! Men don’t usually ask their friend out for dinner. Instead they text you last minute. There isn’t a plan and it’s super casual.
He picks you up. If a guy picks you up, or offers to pick you up, it’s a positive sign that it’s a date. Especially if you don’t live in the same neighborhood or town. Not many men are willing to drive a long distance just to hang out. Now, it’s a different story if you meet him after work, or you live in the same neighborhood. There’s no need to be picked up so this can also be a sign that it’s a date.
He pays. If he pays for your meal, drinks and even the tip, best believe it’s a date. Where it gets tricky is when you do multiple things during a date. What does it mean if the guy pays for dinner but suggests you spot the movie? If he lets you pick the flick, it’s most likely a date. He probably doesn’t want to sit through the latest chick flick if he’s your buddy. If he insists on watching the latest comedy spoof film, and you’re paying for it, it’s not a date. And of course we know that if you treat him all night you are not on a date. No arguing or debating it.
He kisses you goodnight. If he kisses you goodnight, it’s a date. If he gives you a tight hug before you leave him, he may just be a gentleman and may go in for the kiss on the second date. If he gives you a loose hug, a “see ya later” or a pound, you just got back from hanging out with “a friend.”
He calls you “girl,””buddy” or any term that’s not romantic. If he’s calling you “girl” or “buddy” when he texts you and you’re hanging out, you’re his friend. Men don’t use those terms with women they are interested in. That’s what you call your homegirl. So, ladies, keep it moving. This guy just isn’t that into you. As a matter a fact, he’s not into you in that way at all.
Born and raised in the suburbs of Los Angeles, Felisa is a 22-year-old SoCal girl at heart who loves to write almost as much as she loves to talk. Within a year, she went from being in a serious five-year relationship to the single scene, which launched a passion for writing about about love, romance, and the dating scene.
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