There are a few reasons why your man isn’t affectionate. The relationship may be new. He may not know how to give you affection. He may shy or insecure. Or he may just not be an affectionate person.
But let’s keep it positive, shall we? Instead of whining about how little he hugs you and holds your hand, take action. Here are five ways to get a little more TLC from your man.
Tell him how you feel. The key ingredient to make any relationship work is to communicate! Let him know how you feel and get to the bottom as to why he isn’t as affectionate as you think he should be.
Cuddle with him. Chances are he isn’t used to all the affection. So it is up to you to lead the way! It might be best to show him the types of affection you want. Lead by example. Now, if he continuously pushes you away, you need to ask yourself: is he playing games or is he just not an affectionate person? Can he improve in that department? If he can’t, can you be with someone who shows no love the way you want to be loved?
Be vulnerable. It’s easier to be affectionate with another person if they feel strongly connected. If you open up, you’re allowing him to be himself with you as well. People naturally want to comfort those with whom they have a deep attachment to. It’s quite possible you are both holding back and not being vulnerable.
Different people show affection in different ways. Everyone is different. The way one man gave you TLC may not be the way your current man shows that he cares. Look out for the little things he does. He may be showing you all his love but you’re too busy noting what he lacks. Appreciate the way that he chooses to show you love.
Act on instinct. You can’t force affection; it has to happen naturally. Once the relationship develops, you will be more in sync as a couple. So, if you’ve only been dating for a week, calm down! Let things take its course. However, if there is no change in his behavior you have some decisions to make. Remember to trust your gut. It will never lead you astray.
Erynn Castellanos is an aspiring radio broadcaster with an opinion on all things love. Currently going through the trials of most twenty somethings, she balances life and relationships and knows what she wants. Her articles on LoveSujeiry.com tie in her personal experiences while exploring the early stages of dating and the single life.
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