Our every day routines can take a toll on our home life, particularly our relationships. Whether it’s working overtime, tending to your children’s every need (mocosos!), or dealing with a work commute that’s way too long (LA traffic, anyone?), the hustle and bustle drains us of energy, leading to relationship duds in and outside of the bedroom.
Instead of getting it on with your husband, you fall asleep. Instead of making time for a girlfriend on her birthday, you cancel last minute in hopes that you can take a catnap. Instead of pursuing your passion of writing, karaoke competitions or jewelry design, you chase after children, cook, clean, work a grueling 9-5, and count the hours till you can fall asleep!
This is no way to live. We must bring spirit and life into our relationships or they will fizzle. Here are a few tips on how to do just that.
A Minute of Gratitude Is All You Need
I get it – you’re busy! But anyone can take a minute out of their day to show gratitude. Text your honey, “Thank you,” for being who he is. Write him a note and sneak it in his briefcase. It doesn’t take much to make someone feel appreciated and desired. Once you begin this new routine, the spark will be reignited.
Affection Brings More than Just an…(rhymes with affection)
A hug or a hand hold costs nothing and doesn’t have to lead to sex. Men, this is especially for you! Sometimes a woman wants her hand held. Sometimes we want a make-out session. I mean, how long has it been since you’ve french kissed your significant other? These tender and affectionate moments increase the level of intimacy. It may lead to sex. It may not. One thing is certain – you’ll feel connected.
Quality Time Over Television
Have you ever sat on a couch with your boyfriend and felt like he was ignoring you? Have you ever ignored your husband because Greys Anatomy is on (McDreamy is much better company, you think)? If so, you’re not spending quality time with your significant other. This occurs often in relationships. Even when we’re busy we watch television. It seems to be the one thing most Americans manage to have time for. So, here’s how to make quality time even over television. DVR your favorite programs to watch later. When together, watch something you both like. That way you can discuss plots and characters over commercials (I hate that Bad Girl from Bad Girl’s Club 13! – you). You’re having a dialogue, which increases intimacy. And you can cuddle on the couch.
When life’s got you down and you’re concerned that your relationships are in a slump, bring them back to life with these simple tips. By taking these small steps, spirits will surely rise.