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Ask Sujeiry: Should I Take Him Back After a Breakup?

Relationship advice for a woman who’s boyfriend broke up with her. Should she take him back after the breakup?

Dear Sujeiry,

I’m 21 and have been dating a 26-year-old man for nearly two years. We hit a rough patch about a month ago. After living together for six months and discussing marriage, he became distant. He is very career focused and I figured he was stressed from his new job. What was actually happening was that a close cousin of his advised him to end the relationship.

He breaks up with me. A week later he calls and tells me he realizes he made a mistake and that he loves me. I haven’t decided whether I should take him back and I’m looking for relationship advice on how to proceed. I love him but how can I trust that he won’t take a family members advice again and break up with me?

Sincerely,

Should I Take Him Back?
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Dear Should I Take Him Back?

The fact that he easily broke up with you after his cousin told him to do so is a blaring red flag. You’ve been with this man for two years. Two years! You lived together and were talking marriage and he just decides to break up with you because of someone else’s opinion?

It doesn’t matter how close he is with his cousin. Something else is going on that you are not aware of. Maybe his family dislikes you altogether. Maybe he’s unsure that he wants to take that next step with you. Regardless of what it is you have to find out before committing to anything. Especially before taking him back, if you choose to do so.

ALSO READ: How An Imperfect Relationship Isn’t An Unhealthy One

So my relationship advice is to get to the bottom of it. Ask him point-blank why he chose to break up with you. Blaming his cousin does not suffice. Once you know the real deal you can make an informed decision of whether you want to spend the rest your life with a man who once broke up with you.

Love,

Sujeiry

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.

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