I’m 21 and have been dating a 26-year-old man for nearly two years. We hit a rough patch about a month ago. After living together for six months and discussing marriage, he became distant. He is very career focused and I figured he was stressed from his new job. What was actually happening was that a close cousin of his advised him to end the relationship.
He breaks up with me. A week later he calls and tells me he realizes he made a mistake and that he loves me. I haven’t decided whether I should take him back and I’m looking for relationship advice on how to proceed. I love him but how can I trust that he won’t take a family members advice again and break up with me?
Should I Take Him Back?
Dear Should I Take Him Back?
The fact that he easily broke up with you after his cousin told him to do so is a blaring red flag. You’ve been with this man for two years. Two years! You lived together and were talking marriage and he just decides to break up with you because of someone else’s opinion?
It doesn’t matter how close he is with his cousin. Something else is going on that you are not aware of. Maybe his family dislikes you altogether. Maybe he’s unsure that he wants to take that next step with you. Regardless of what it is you have to find out before committing to anything. Especially before taking him back, if you choose to do so.
So my relationship advice is to get to the bottom of it. Ask him point-blank why he chose to break up with you. Blaming his cousin does not suffice. Once you know the real deal you can make an informed decision of whether you want to spend the rest your life with a man who once broke up with you.