Six months ago I started dating someone. He’s everything I ever wanted, except for one thing. He is very unemotional. He doesn’t feel comfortable showing any emotion except for happiness.
If he is upset for any reason, he pulls away, usually for two days max (by this I mean very little communication). And I feel neglected and unsupported.
Every hurdle we face I want to call it quits. But then when we communicate things always end up working out and we understand each other better. However, I don’t feel comfortable crying or being vulnerable with him. I am not being me and I don’t want to settle. He doesn’t seem to be able to change his methods of coping. I know my needs won’t change either. Do we move on?
Your story is not uncommon. In all honesty, I was just where you are months ago. My ex also didn’t communicate. He was very detached and disconnected. So, I can relate.
My ex and I didn’t make it, obviously. This being one of the reasons. Throughout our relationship, I struggled like you did. I didn’t feel I could be vulnerable with him all the time because he didn’t give that back. It was tough to be my affectionate and mushy self with someone who just isn’t able to handle emotions.
Should you end your relationship? That depends on what you feel you need in a relationship to be fulfilled. Ask yourself the very questions I asked when in your shoes: Read the rest of Sujeiry’s relationship advice on Loop21.