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Ask Sujeiry: Should I Date a Man with Two Kids?

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Ask Sujeiry: Should I Date a Man with Two Kids?

Dating a man with kids is no easy feat. Some relationship advice for a young woman in this position who is wondering if she should call it quits.

Stressed Woman with KidsAre you ready to be a stepmom?

Dear Sujeiry,

I met a great guy who treats me amazing but has two kids (5 and 8 years old). He doesn’t have full custody but does see them every other weekend. It’s frustrating only because I don’t feel like I am a priority. If something happens to his kids in school, he has to be there. If a kid is sick, he can’t see me. He’s cancelled on me a few times because of his children. I know it may sound selfish but I get annoyed when he does.

So, what should I do? We’ve only been dating three months but I’ve met his kids and he wants to get serious. I really like him. This relationship is special! I’m confused about dating a man with kids and taking our relationship to the never level. I don’t know if I can be a stepmom at my age (I am only 25 while he is 32). It’s a big burden and a big deal! What’s your relationship advice?

Sincerely,

Two Kids Too Many
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Dear Two Kids Too Many,

Should you date a man with two kids? You already are! The better question is can you build a relationship and a life with a man where you will have to be a partner and a step-mother.

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That’s how serious this is. Most single mothers and fathers don’t want to waste their time. They have a big responsibly as parents and want to share the load with a partner down the line. They also don’t introduce their kid(s) to just anyone. You’ve met his kids. He’s taking your relationship very seriously.

As for the canceling of plans for his children, that is the reality of dating a man with kids. (If he’s a good father.) You are right; you are not the priority. At least not all the time. I am sure he is trying to find that balance. However, his kids are and may always be his top concern. If something goes down with his children (and it always does because they’re children!) he’s going to drop whatever plans and break whatever promises he made to you. That is his duty as a good father.

So, should you take this relationship to the next level? That’s up to you. If you want to be his woman you also have to be a mother figure, even if it’s part time. That the truth. Now, what are you going to do about it?

Love strongly and wisely,

Sujeiry

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.

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