The worst thing you can do in a relationship is to pretend to be someone you are not.
Because when you put on a mask and hide who you truly are, you’ll have to keep up the farce. Or worse: the man or woman you love will see your true self and wonder, where did the person that I fell in love with go? Did you change? Do I really know you at all? Who the hell are you any way?
You are then faced with a decision: tell the truth…or run. I suggest you reveal yourself and tell your partner that you lied from the very beginning.
We all lie to our potential partners, at least at the start of courtship. Not overt lies, more like omitting, which is indeed lying.
We try to impress the man or woman we are dating. And, if we don’t feel like who we are and what we offer is enough, we hide personality traits that may annoy or irritate (often because exes said we annoy and irritate); we don’t tell ’em about our shopping problem, our debt and/or our fear of commitment. Like an Instagram feed, we only show our best sides. Especially when we fear the other side isn’t enough.
I talk about how to show your whole self in a relationship, plus, feeling alone and empty in life. This and more on this episode of Love Sujeiry: Talk Served Raw on reVolver Podcast.