I’ve been with my guy for a few months and he is a painter. I only saw one of his works once and it was fantastic and I told him so. For some reason he refuses to let me see the rest of his art. He says they aren’t good enough, but I would really like to see them.
I’m not sure if I’m making a big deal out of it, or if he is. We share everything else; why are his paintings this big of a deal? I would genuinely want to see them and he almost gets angry when I ask about them. I just don’t get it. It’s such a big part of him and I want to feel like I am missing out. I want to connect with him in every way.
So I would love your relationship advice. Is there a reason why he is refusing to share his art work with me?
Dear Artless Girlfriend,
It seems he may be really protective of his work, or he may not think his work is good enough yet. He may be insecure about it. Many artists are perfectionists, so this is normal. You are also not a painter or an artist. This may be part of his creative process.
Personally, when I started writing I didn’t share my writing for years. Now I am a relationship writer and advice columnist. I shared my work when I was ready and confident, and look where it has led to professionally. I now share my work with the masses, the world. So perhaps he just needs time to grow as an artist and gain confidence in his talent and skills. Your opinion probably means so much to him. Your boyfriend may just want time to be the very best painter he can be. Let him be and let him grow artistically. He will eventually come to you and show you his paintings when he is ready.
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