I’m being dating this SWAT officer for a year. We had problem in the past. He disappear on me for a couple month. He CLAIM he couldn’t take me calling him name, and he thought I had someone else, after he reappear, within a month he text me saying “He didn’t THINK we should see each other again” He also claim it was selfish. I’m confuse with this man, He has no kids, never being married, his not the player type, he has low-self esteem, his 41 year old. I’m only 32. Why reappear, just to broke my heart. Everything was going fine.
Dear Confused Carmen,
This man is a mess! He wants you. He doesn’t. It’s on. It’s off. He has issues! Don’t get me wrong; some people get a little confused about where they stand and, if they lack confidence, like to play these emotional games. A lot of the time, men do this because it makes them feel better that they have a woman at their beckon call – even when they’ve broken up with the chica a million times. I mean think about it, wouldn’t you feel good if you had a man like that?
I have been in this same situation and realized it’s not really about what I did wrong, but more so about their indecision and need to feel like the man. Don’t waste your time with someone who isn’t reciprocating feelings. Love yourself and do you. As a 31-year-old single woman who knows what she wants and refuses to settle for less, I recommend it.
Love strongly and wisely,