My boyfriend of two years left me for another girl. Since then, I have been trying to get him back. I know, it’s crazy. But I just love him. But he’s not responding to my calls or emails. He even unfriended me on Facebook. All my friends are telling me to let it go but my gut tells me to keep trying. We had a great relationship.
I know he’s with this new girl but I can’t help but feel he will come around and see the error of his ways. What can I do, if anything? Should I give up?
Can’t Let Go
Dear Can’t Let Go,
You are going down a destructive path. You are pleading for a man who does not want you or love you to return to you. Why? Do you not think you are enough? Why would you continue to contact a man who has told you in every which way that he wants nothing to do with you?
Harsh words, but you need a good shake.
You should give up. Not because you shouldn’t fight for love but because this fight is one-sided. You are fighting alone. You have tried it all and it’s not working. You cannot force someone to return to you, choose you, love you. But you can choose to respect yourself and move on. Yes, it is a choice. Not an easy one but you can control yourself. You can stop calling. It’s called free will.
Do yourself a favor and work on you. Let go and heal. And learn to love yourself much more than you love him.
Love strongly and wisely,