Me and my ex were best friends before we were a couple. We met in high school and have been best friends since we were 16 until now. We stopped talking a month ago after a nasty breakup.
Our relationship was crazy. We loved each other but he and I are both the jealous type so we argued all the time. We were better off as friends. After being together for a year and friends for 10 years, I realized that and broke up with him. He is heart broken. But I want my friend back!
So, any relationship advice? What can I do to convince him that we can be friends again?
Not Lover But Friend
Dear Not Lover But Friend,
Well, I can see how much you care about your friendship. I am sure he cares also – about you and your relationship. He wouldn’t be angry if he didn’t care at all. Thing is it may be too soon for him to be BFF’s with his former BFF. You were in a relationship that maybe he didn’t want to end? I am just assuming that is the case since he cut you off completely after you ended your romance.
So, give him time. Time to heal. Move on. And maybe even hate you a little bit. In time, you can remind him how great you were as friends. He may already knows that and probably misses your friendship. Once his ego and feelings are no longer bruised, I am sure he will be more open to talk and be buddies.
Just don’t expect your friendship to be the same as before. Not only are you now both grown adults, but you have also seen each other naked. It’s difficult to regain the same kind of friendship once the clothes have come off.
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