There is one girl that I know from work. We have talked one or two times and I don’t see her much at work. I went to a bar with a couple of friends and I saw her. She also saw me at that bar but I didn’t really say anything because I wasn’t really sure if it was her at first. She kept looking at me like she wanted me to say something but I was kinda shy.
I was wondering what I could say to her about that situation when I see her at work, whenever it will be. I don’t want her to think I was being rude. And what’s the best way to ask her for her number without being placed on the “just friends” list?
Dear Co-Worker Crush,
Ok. This can be salvaged! Yes, it was rude to not greet her at the bar. Drinking, shy, or not, you’re going to have to apologize for giving her the shaft. Why don’t you take initiative and find her at work? Women love it when a man puts in effort, especially during the courting stage. We like it even more when a man who has slighted us seeks us out. So don’t wait to bump into her at work. Find her name in the business directory and shoot her an email. Go to her classroom during a prep period and ask her to lunch. Just do something!
An extra tip: tell her you want to take her out to dinner or out for drinks to make up for your rudeness at the bar.
As for being placed in the Friends Zone, that is ultimately up to her. If she feels chemistry and enjoys your company, then I am sure you have nothing to worry about. However, if she just doesn’t see you in that light, well, a friend you will be.
But only if you want to be.
Remember, no matter what happens, you gave it a shot. In love, we have to take risks. Sometimes those risks pan out and sometimes those risks lead to rejection or a bad case of the blues. You won’t know the outcome until you try. So get to finding, apologizing, and asking!
Sujeiry, 1st Lady of Love[contact-form-7 404 "Not Found"]