I have a man that I am in love with but his family doesn’t like me. We argue about it all the time. I don’t want to go over to his parents home because I feel uncomfortable and unwanted. It just brings us problems but he gets mad if I don’t spend time with his family. What should I do to make the situation better?
Hated by Family
Dear Hated by Family,
I am sorry to hear that you feel unwanted and disliked by your boyfriend’s family. I can imagine it will become much tougher during the holidays. But there is something you can do.
First, you have to figure out why his family has an issue with you and your relationship. You didn’t give me much information. Do you argue with his family? Does his mom not like you? Is it a culture clash, or does your boyfriend only share the negative things about your relationship? Bottom line, there has to be a reason for the discord between you and his family. Learning what that is is your first step.
Once you know why they are against you, you can try to mend the relationship. Both you and your partner should talk to his family members, particularly those who disapprove of you. Find a compromise. Let them get to know you. That means you actually have to make an effort and come around.
Again, I have no idea what is really happening. With minimum details I can only give general relationship advice. Regardless of the why, the how is up to you. Remember to be respectful, honest and to try, even if you want to shake his family. It’s the only way to save your relationship.
Love strongly and wisely,
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