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Ask Sujeiry: Do Men Expect Women to Have Anal Sex?

Sex has changed over the years. We experiment much more. But are women expected to have anal sex?

Dear Sujeiry,

I am 30 years old and recently divorced after being married for 10 years. Dating has been challenging especially regarding sex. Sex has changed so much! Specifically, it seems like anal sex is much more common and even expected, even in more casual relationships. I’m not a prude, but it used to be that this was a pretty infrequent thing. Have expectations changed regarding anal sex? How do I tackle this when dating?


Not Giving Up My Behind


Dear Not Giving Up My Behind,

Sex has definitely changed over the last decade. Experimentation is no longer taboo and that includes having anal sex. There are articles that give tips on how to ease him in and even sex toys for anal sex. It’s a booty buffet!

PLUS: 5 Odd Sexual Acts That I Learned from Urban Dictionary

But do you have to feast on it as well? No! You should do what makes you feel comfortable. If anal sex is too intimate (or painful) for your, tell those that are trying to stick it in that your vagina is best for now. Do not feel pressured to do anything that you don’t want to do just because anal sex is “cool.” This isn’t high school; we aren’t teenagers. Peer pressure be gone! Just do what feels right for you, your body, spirit and your gut. The right guy will respect your decision to not give up your behind, or wait until you are ready.




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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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