My boyfriend is a clown. I love it cause he makes me laugh but sometimes he jokes at my expense and it bothers me. Sometimes he calls me names, like asshole or dummy. I know he’s joking around but is it disrespectful?
He treats me great though. It’s just his way of kidding, I think. I haven’t talked to him about it but it can be hurtful. What is your relationship advice?
Name Calling BF
Dear Name Calling BF,
Is it disrespectful that he calls you names? If it is hurting your feelings, yes. Disrespect comes in many forms, and name calling is one of them. But it is all relative. Many couples communicate this way and even by cursing at each other and can have a great relationship. It all depends on how you and your partner are taking the name calling and how it’s affecting your self-worth and self-esteem.
Bottom line, if you feel disrespected, you must speak up. If what he says is bothering you, say so. He may not be saying these thing with ill intent. He probably doesn’t think you are taking it any other way but as a joke.
The best relationship advice I can give you is this: communicate how you feel always, especially when it comes to how a man is treating you and your heart.
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