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Ask Sujeiry: Do We Break up If He Doesn’t Want to Be Exclusive?

Relationship advice for a woman who is in love with a man who wants space in their relationship. Should he break up with him if he doesn’t want to be exclusive?

Dear Sujeiry,

I started dating a guy three months ago. We moved fast. It was hot and heavy and I feel like I’ve fallen in love with him. So it seems we’re on the same page and then out of no where he asks for space. He says we’re moving too fast but he’s the one who wanted to see me all the time. He also said he wants to date other women.

We never talked about being exclusive but the way he was with me I thought it would get to that point and now he wants a break? I don’t get it and I need relationship advice. Should I keep dating him or should I cut it off? I am already invested. I love him! I don’t want to end it but I don’t want to get played.

Sincerely,

Called a Time Out
—-

Dear Called a Time Out,

I am so sorry that this fool has dragged your feelings through the mud. It sucks. I’ve been there. But you have to take some accountability.

He never said he just wanted to date you. You never discussed exclusivity. If that’s what you wanted, you should have brought it up. Instead, you assumed he wanted what you wanted.

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Many women make this mistake. We analyze a man’s words and often read between the lines. If a man says he wants space and to date other women, that’s what he wants. What he did or said before this statement is null and void. None of it matters much. He has chosen not to be with you. He wants to continue to play the field. He does not reciprocate your “in love” feelings.

So you should end it. Your feelings of love won’t subside. His feelings of lust may not blossom into love. Do you want to wait around for a maybe? You shouldn’t. And so I leave you with this last bit of advice:

Love,

Sujeiry

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.

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