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Should I Keep Dating a Controlling Guy with Many More Flaws?

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Should I Keep Dating a Controlling Guy with Many More Flaws?

Your man has flaws but should you dump him? Some relationship advice on what to do.

Dear Sujeiry,

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. It’s been great but sometimes the things he does makes me want to leave him, like if I don’t call him throughout the day he gets mad. When I don’t show up at his house when he says so, he gets angry. Also, he asked me to move in with him and said that if I don’t, he will break up with me.

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Sometimes my guy plays a lot of games, like calling and yelling at me, telling me that it’s over when I didn’t do anything wrong . He just has so many flaws. Should I break up with him?

Sincerely,

Game Playing BF

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Dear Game Playing BF,

In the beginning of any relationship, our significant other is super sweet and oh so lovely. Time passes and we see their flaws. Your boyfriend has flaws like everyone else does. Now, he is showing you his true colors.

From what you’ve told me, it seems that his flaws are that he’s controlling and demanding. Maybe he calls you and yells “it’s over!” because he’s a spoiled brat that, when he doesn’t get his way, throws a temper tantrum. Or maybe it’s a preemptive strike; he breaks up with you before you break up with him because he’s insecure, or he wants to scare you into submission or guilt you into getting what he wants.

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You know him best. Regardless, you shouldn’t do anything you’re not ready to do. Since you’re asking me what you should do about your relationship, you aren’t ready to move in with him. You definitely need to reconsider whether you want to stay with a guy who seems emotionally unstable and is so quick tempered.

And remember: when it comes to relationships, it’s about the flaws you can handle. Ask yourself this: can I handle his temper and game playing, or do I need to move on? You’ll gut will tell you what to do.

Love strongly and wisely,

Sujeiry

 

Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.

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