My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. It’s been great but sometimes the things he does makes me want to leave him, like if I don’t call him throughout the day he gets mad. When I don’t show up at his house when he says so, he gets angry. Also, he asked me to move in with him and said that if I don’t, he will break up with me.
Sometimes my guy plays a lot of games, like calling and yelling at me, telling me that it’s over when I didn’t do anything wrong . He just has so many flaws. Should I break up with him?
Game Playing BF
Dear Game Playing BF,
In the beginning of any relationship, our significant other is super sweet and oh so lovely. Time passes and we see their flaws. Your boyfriend has flaws like everyone else does. Now, he is showing you his true colors.
From what you’ve told me, it seems that his flaws are that he’s controlling and demanding. Maybe he calls you and yells “it’s over!” because he’s a spoiled brat that, when he doesn’t get his way, throws a temper tantrum. Or maybe it’s a preemptive strike; he breaks up with you before you break up with him because he’s insecure, or he wants to scare you into submission or guilt you into getting what he wants.
You know him best. Regardless, you shouldn’t do anything you’re not ready to do. Since you’re asking me what you should do about your relationship, you aren’t ready to move in with him. You definitely need to reconsider whether you want to stay with a guy who seems emotionally unstable and is so quick tempered.
And remember: when it comes to relationships, it’s about the flaws you can handle. Ask yourself this: can I handle his temper and game playing, or do I need to move on? You’ll gut will tell you what to do.
Love strongly and wisely,