My man is locked up. I have 2 kids with him and we’ve been together for 6 yrs. At work I met a guy who has 4 kids and has a girl who he’s been with for 14 yrs. I’m supposed to be waiting for my man, but me and this guy have been talking for like 6 mnths. The sex is amazing. We get along but he always tells me no strings attached and asks if I’m catching feelings. I say no even though I know am. During sex though it feels from his part that it’s more than just sex. This is driving me crazy! I love my man but I can’t seem to stop talking to this dude. I just don’t know what to do! I like him so much!
Dear Just Sprung,
I understand feeling a guy to the point where you allow your emotions and pepa to take control of your logic. But I agree with Gonzo. This is a situation that can be potentially dangerous and filled with ghetto drama! I mean, the man in jail, the guy with the girl for 16 years, the Brady Bunch number of kids, the amazing sex. This reads like a Danielle Steele novel pero chola style! I know you like him and the pene is AMAZING pero pendeja, your life, sanity and family should be a higher priority.
I can’t imagine having to wait for a man who is in jail, but I have waited for a man to decide what he wants. Waiting is haaaard, even if you do know the person will eventually be with you. The point is this: if you love someone then you stand by him or her, faithfully. If you don’t love him enough to be faithful (and you didn’t mention your love for your man not even once), then, as Gonzo said, break it off. Regardless, whether you are single or not, you do need to leave your buddy-partner-in-crime alone. He isn’t leaving his girl. He isn’t thrilled that you’re catching feelings. So stop being a masochist and leave him be! Cause no matter how tender he is with you during sex, the fact of the matter is he is TELLING you he doesn’t want any of those things. His point is clear, so point your ass toward the exit door and go!
Love strongly and wisely,