I’m a 34 yr old female with 5 kids and I’m in the process of divorcing my husband of 15 yrs. The marriage ended because I was dishonest and cheated on him. I take full responsibility for the things I’ve done and I’m truly sorry. I have a new boyfriend but am cheating on him as well. I don’t know why i cheat!!! And to make matters worse, I still love my husband and he says he still loves me too! He’s got a new girlfriend and even though I truly want him to be happy again I am jealous of her. We’re still having sex together on the side too. Please give me any advice you can! I feel like I’m going crazy!
Addicted to Cheating?
Dear Addicted to Cheating,
I have to say your situation is…dangerous. There is so much cheating and dishonesty that there is no way to survive. You are in the middle of a war zone. Grenades are hidden everywhere and you, Pepita, have done most of the planting.
You self-sabotage all your romantic relationships and you must ask yourself why. I don’t know anything about your childhood but something must have occurred in your past to make you feel you don’t deserve happiness. Aside from ruining your relationships with unfaithfulness, you seem to equate love with sex. Maybe you cheat when you feel unloved and unsatisfied. But you will never be loved or feel love if you don’t love and respect yourself.
Bottomline, you need to STOP and question your motives. If you cannot figure this out on your own, seek counsel from a professional. This pattern is destructive and you will never have a positive and healthy relationship if it continues. Lets say you return to your ex-husband. What makes you think you won’t cheat on him again or that he won’t cheat on you since he’s cheating on his current girlfriend with you? Do yourself a favor and be ALONE for a change. This way you won’t distract yourself with sex and affection. Being alone is the only way you will begin to sift through your inner most thoughts.
Love strongly and wisely,
Sujeiry, 1st Lady of Love[contact-form-7 404 "Not Found"]