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Ask Sujeiry: How Do I Win My Ex-Girlfriend Back?

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Ask Sujeiry: How Do I Win My Ex-Girlfriend Back?

rejection red roses heartbreakDear Sujeiry,

My girlfriend broke up with me after 9 months together. She says it’s because I am too pushy, that I dont listen to her, and that I keep making the same mistakes. She says that in the end she feels exhausted. I’ve tried to win her back the last 3 weeks but she keeps telling me to let her go. She say’s she does not feel anything for me.

I am still in love her and believe I can change. But she is totally ignoring my texts and if I call she acts so cold and mean. What should I do now?


Want to Win Her Back

Dear Want to Win Her Back,

This is the thing with most women. Once we are fed up we are fed up. Once we are done we are done. So, though I usually advice not to lose hope, I am telling you to leave her be.

Don’t call her or text her. Find a way to move on. Because, as much as you want this relationship to work and you want her to be with you, she’s clearly telling you she doesn’t want this relationship or you.

Let her go. Respect her crystal clear wishes. You haven’t thus far which is why she is “cold and mean.” She is fed up. She has said so. You are not hearing her. Perk up your ears. See the situation and your relationship as is – over. It’s harsh, I know, but you need a wake up call.

As for changing your ways, kudos for trying to become a better person. However, as much as you say you are trying to be less pushy, your reaction to this breakup has been nothing less than pushy. You are proving her point. This may be your lesson. Maybe you needed this short relationship to work on this character trait. Continue working on yourself. Focus on being a better you. When you get to a point where you are a better version of yourself, the right woman will come.

Love strongly and wisely,


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DISCLAIMER: The advice offered by Sujeiry Gonzalez are solely the opinion of Sujeiry Gonzalez and should not be considered as a form of diagnosis or treatment of any kind. 

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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