I love this boy with every fiber of my being. I tell him how much I care but I still don’t think he sees. So many people have told him they love him and I’m terrified he won’t think I mean it when I really do. They say don’t just speak the words “I love you,” prove it. But if I tell him how I plan to prove it I’m scared he’ll see me as stalkerish.
I’m stuck and I don’t know what to do. How can I get him to see me the way I see him?
Want Him To Want Me
Dear Want Him To Want Me,
I have been exactly where you are – desiring a man that doesn’t feel the same. Unrequited love is a bitch but it is something that most go through. It is almost like a rite of passage in love.
So, what can you do? Absolutely nothing. You can’t force him to feel something if he doesn’t. You can’t make him see you the way you see him. His eyes, his heart – they are all his. All you can do, love, is to let go. It’s difficult, I know. Trust me. It will hurt. I see you are already hurting. But what’s the use of convincing someone or proving to someone that you are worthy of their love? Shouldn’t it be given to you because it is what he feels?
It shouldn’t be that hard, love. Relationships are work but falling in love, well, that’s the easy part, the beautiful part of relationships that comes naturally. So, let go. Heal. Move on. Call your friends and wallow in your sorrow if you have to. Take to your bed for a few days. Write in your journal or write him one last love letter. Whatever it is that you need that’s what you need to do. But please do not harm yourself, him, or do anything “stalkerish.”
In the end you will release a love that doesn’t love you. And you will come out of it a stronger woman.
Love strongly and wisely,
DISCLAIMER: The advice offered by Sujeiry Gonzalez are solely the opinion of Sujeiry Gonzalez and should not be considered as a form of diagnosis or treatment of any kind.[contact-form-7 404 "Not Found"]