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Ask Sujeiry: How Do I Get Him To Want Me?


Ask Sujeiry: How Do I Get Him To Want Me?

Dear Sujeiry,

I love this boy with every fiber of my being. I tell him how much I care but I still don’t think he sees. So many people have told him they love him and I’m terrified he won’t think I mean it when I really do. They say don’t just speak the words “I love you,” prove it. But if I tell him how I plan to prove it I’m scared he’ll see me as stalkerish.

I’m stuck and I don’t know what to do. How can I get him to see me the way I see him?


Want Him To Want Me

Dear Want Him To Want Me,

I have been exactly where you are – desiring a man that doesn’t feel the same. Unrequited love is a bitch but it is something that most go through. It is almost like a rite of passage in love.

So, what can you do? Absolutely nothing. You can’t force him to feel something if he doesn’t. You can’t make him see you the way you see him. His eyes, his heart – they are all his.  All you can do, love, is to let go. It’s difficult, I know. Trust me. It will hurt. I see you are already hurting. But what’s the use of convincing someone or proving to someone that you are worthy of their love? Shouldn’t it be given to you because it is what he feels?

It shouldn’t be that hard, love. Relationships are work but falling in love, well, that’s the easy part, the beautiful part of relationships that comes naturally. So, let go. Heal. Move on. Call your friends and wallow in your sorrow if you have to.  Take to your bed for a few days. Write in your journal or write him one last love letter. Whatever it is that you need that’s what you need to do. But please do not harm yourself, him, or do anything “stalkerish.”

In the end you will release a love that doesn’t love you. And you will come out of it a stronger woman.

Love strongly and wisely,


DISCLAIMER: The advice offered by Sujeiry Gonzalez are solely the opinion of Sujeiry Gonzalez and should not be considered as a form of diagnosis or treatment of any kind. 

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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